I felt compelled to write this due to a recent decision of a North Carolina judge earlier today to legalize same sex "marriage" in the state after the judge deemed the state's ban on same sex marriage unconstitutional. This ban called Amendment one was unanimously voted for on May 8th, 2012 which specifically defined marriage as being between one man and one woman within the states constitution.
My friends decisions don't deter my love for them.
I have been hearing lately, and getting the impression that in order to love someone you MUST agree with the decisions that they make, and if you don't then you are deemed hateful. I do not agree with homosexuality, it is sinful in the eyes of God and I refuse to endorse sin in any shape or form. Now before I go any further I must clarify that I am a sinner as well and I too sin on a daily basis, sin is of our nature and it always has been since the fall of Adam and Eve. Simply put, just because sinning is of our human nature doesn't mean that it is okay to sin. Paul himself said we should not continue to sin simply to make God's grace an abundance for them.
Now, let me get back to what you are really here to read, why my stance on homosexuality doesn't mean I am hateful. I would like to think that I have an abundance of friends (and if I don't, I have a few friends none the less) with these friendships there are also differences in opinions and decisions that I do not agree with. Let's say one of my friends goes out tonight to drink (I don't like drinking for various reasons, but for the sake of my view let's just say my dislike for it is because most people drink to get drunk) and they get drunk. I promise you their decision to go out and get drunk will in no way stop me from loving them as a person and friend. I will still look out for them, pray for them and do anything I can possibly do in order to help them as a friend should. The same holds true for homosexuality, a friend had an abortion, or any other negative decision that a friend could make.
I will always love you, but I will still be disappointed
Having said what has been said above, I would like to be clear and say that just because I love you doesn't mean that I won't be disappointed in your decision. Now I am by no means telling you how to live life and what decisions are right for you, I am simply saying that I care for you. Every friend that I have has beliefs or opinions that I disagree with and yet we still continue to be friends. Why should my stance on homosexuality be any different? I will never agree with homosexuality, and if you wish to shun me as a friend then so be it. I will not be the one to stop you from doing so, but my love and care for you will not change. I will still do anything in the world that I can do for you, within reason of course.
How can we still be friends? True tolerance.
Today's society has done the unthinkable in changing the true definition of what tolerance is. The definition of tolerance according to the Oxford dictionary is "the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with". The fact that I disagree with homosexuality doesn't make me intolerant, in fact it makes me just the opposite. We all don't need to agree on everything in order to be tolerant people, that isn't the true definition of tolerance
After reading this whether you agree or disagree or not I hope you will still find pleasure in reading this blog. I love each and every one of you no matter the decisions that you make. Just because I disagree with a decision that you make good or bad in no way diminishes my love for all of you. Thanks for reading, God Bless you all.