I felt compelled to write this due to a recent decision of a North
Carolina judge earlier today to legalize same sex "marriage" in the
state after the judge deemed the state's ban on same sex marriage
unconstitutional. This ban called Amendment one was unanimously voted for on
May 8th, 2012 which specifically defined marriage as being between one man and
one woman within the states constitution.
My friends
decisions don't deter my love for them.
I have been hearing lately, and getting the impression that in
order to love someone you MUST agree with the decisions that they make, and if
you don't then you are deemed hateful. I do not agree with homosexuality, it is
sinful in the eyes of God and I refuse to endorse sin in any shape or form. Now
before I go any further I must clarify that I am a sinner as well and I too sin
on a daily basis, sin is of our nature and it always has been since the fall of
Adam and Eve. Simply put, just because sinning is of our human nature doesn't
mean that it is okay to sin. Paul himself said we should not continue to sin
simply to make God's grace an abundance for them.
Now, let me get back to what you are really here to read, why my
stance on homosexuality doesn't mean I am hateful. I would like to think that I
have an abundance of friends (and if I don't, I have a few friends none the
less) with these friendships there are also differences in opinions and decisions
that I do not agree with. Let's say one of my friends goes out tonight to drink
(I don't like drinking for various reasons, but for the sake of my view let's
just say my dislike for it is because most people drink to get drunk) and they
get drunk. I promise you their decision to go out and get drunk will in no way
stop me from loving them as a person and friend. I will still look out for
them, pray for them and do anything I can possibly do in order to help them as
a friend should. The same holds true for homosexuality, a friend had an
abortion, or any other negative decision that a friend could make.
I will always love
you, but I will still be disappointed
Having said what has been said above, I would like to be clear and
say that just because I love you doesn't mean that I won't be disappointed in
your decision. Now I am by no means telling you how to live life and what
decisions are right for you, I am simply saying that I care for you. Every
friend that I have has beliefs or opinions that I disagree with and yet we
still continue to be friends. Why should my stance on homosexuality be any
different? I will never agree with homosexuality, and if you wish to shun me as
a friend then so be it. I will not be the one to stop you from doing so, but my
love and care for you will not change. I will still do anything in the world
that I can do for you, within reason of course.
How can we still
be friends? True tolerance.
Today's society has done the unthinkable in changing the true
definition of what tolerance is. The definition of tolerance according to the
Oxford dictionary is "the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in
particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily
agree with". The fact that I disagree with homosexuality doesn't make me
intolerant, in fact it makes me just the opposite. We all don't need to agree
on everything in order to be tolerant people, that isn't the true definition of
tolerance
After reading this whether you agree or disagree or not I hope you
will still find pleasure in reading this blog. I love each and every one of you
no matter the decisions that you make. Just because I disagree with a decision
that you make good or bad in no way diminishes my love for all of you. Thanks
for reading, God Bless you all.
-The Christian